10 Ways to Redirect Yourself When You’re About to Stab Someone in the Eye With A Rusty Fork

  1. Change your mood with some music. Music is essential when someone just got on your last nerve. Find some fun dance music or some soothing classical music and focus on that. If you don’t have access to music, play some in your head. Everyone has their own happy song, find yours to play in your head when you need to step away from a potentially disastrous situation. My dad once taught me to play circus music in my head when I became frustrated with a person during a conversation. That’s always been my signature move, especially when I put clown noses on those people in my head. Best advice ever, and it always makes me smile instead losing my $#!* with someone.music
  2. Snuggle your pet. Like music, pets can be very calming and stress levels can drop considerably when you have your furry little friend nearby. Fish tanks and chirping birds also do the trick if you don’t have a pet, so think outside of the box.
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  3. Get a snack. Sometimes when your mouth wants to move in a negative direction, the best way to redirect it is by munching. Keep a healthy snack handy at work or in your car so that you don’t make things worse by being hangry.snacking
  4. Take a walk. Alone time when you’re about to blow a gasket is underrated. A walk and some good music can change everything. Also, talking on the phone while walking is a great stress reliever because you can exercise with your friend at the same timewalking
  5. Connect with nature. Gardening, hiking, or even reading in your hammock is a great way to keep your lid from boiling over. There’s something about hearing nature sounds, smelling fresh air and getting some vitamin D that’s really soothing  to the soul.hammock
  6. Find a friend. Yes, that’s what friends are for and that’s why they’re your chosen family! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve texted my bestie the exact same text that reads “I’m coming over before I slap someone.” Most of the time she’s either working from home or in the middle of some crazy house project, but when you need a change of scenery to stay calm, it’s okay to be selfish. I’ll tune her out while she’s on her conference call, play Words With Friends on my phone, then eat all of her snacks until I’m not so hostile anymore. I’m not even embarrassed to say that I’ve restocked her snack drawer several times because I’ve eaten her entire stash of junk food. Again, that’s what friends are for!friends
  7. Take a drive. Driving shifts your energy on something other than getting to that last and final straw. Country roads that are tree lined and windy are my favorite roads. Put on sunglasses, roll down the windows, play some really happy music and be free!drive
  8. Find some water. Looking at water is a beach vacation in your head and focusing on the sound can take you to a different place internally. If you don’t live near a beach, find a small stream or waterfall nearby and get lost in the sound of the water.water
  9. Get your yoga on. You don’t have to be a yogi to center yourself with a downward facing dog or a warrior pose. Even if you need to skip over all that, head straight to savasana and end up in the nap position, there are no rules! Your body will tell you what it needs, so pay attention and do what feels rightyoga3
  10. Get Creative. Contrary to popular belief, EVERYONE is creative in some way. Even science geeks can find a creative outlet; you’ll find it, I promise. Here’s an example: I don’t like to paint, but I do like to paint my face on every morning by using different colors and techniques. Maybe a technical drawing or sketching out a maze excites you, do whatever feels right to quiet your mind. Just because you can’t play the piano, doesn’t mean you can’t sing the music. Get creative getting creative!pencils-colored-art-education-drawing-creativity

         

 

Quarantine Self Care 101

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The past few months have been very awkward, scary and unfamiliar, but in the spirit of trying to find the good in all things, I’ve been using this time to work on and update my blog since it’s been well over a year since I’ve posted anything!  I’ve tried many new products which I’ll soon post about,  I’ve perfected my smokey eye, I’ve done a peel, I micro-needled, and I even cut and colored my own hair!  Self care is a very important part of my life, but it’s not all about the physical.  For me, mental health is essential to feel balanced and centered because when I’m balanced and centered, I’m my best self.

I’ve tried to rearrange my priorities and put my mental health first, so in evaluating my life, I had to change a few things.  I’ve learned that it’s important to surround yourself with positive like-minded people who encourage you and love you for who you are.   Removing all negative and toxic people from my circle has made me calmer and happier.  Like purging your closet or basement, it’s okay to purge your people if they just don’t suit you anymore.  Wishing them love on their own journey and letting them go in peace is okay if that’s what YOU need.

Setting boundaries with people was scary for me, but I’ve mastered this over time.  One quarantine boundary for my extended family has been “two phone calls a day only” because, as I’ve told them “I’m not trying to go crazy at home because you all are going crazy at home”  It’s empowering to ignore a phone call because that third call from the same person was crossing my boundary.  I used to feel guilty setting boundaries with people but I don’t feel guilty anymore because this is what I need to be my best self.  It’s okay to say no to people, and you don’t need to explain your no, it’s just no.  A person who respects your boundaries won’t question your “no”.

I’ve learned that who you chose to spend your time with is very important.  You have the right to be picky about who gets your time and attention.  When reevaluating your circle, ask yourself: does this person’s words and actions match up?  If not, that’s a major red flag to me because I tend to believe what I see rather than what I hear, I call it my bullshit detector.  Along with listening, pay attention and really look – see things for what they are – because you might see things differently.   You have the power to chose your own squad, make it a great team!

Lastly, I appreciate when women encourage and promote other women, that’s always been a big deal to me.  No one understands a woman’s struggles except another woman. Women just know.  We all need good girlfriends, not just acquaintances, but honest and REAL girlfriends.  The kind you can roll up to their house in with no makeup on and fuzzy slippers and drink all their wine.  The kind you call up laughing when when you make an ass out of yourself in front some cute guy.  The ones you take road trips with while eating junk food the entire time and listening to really good music.  The kind you FaceTime to ask what shoe looks better with the outfit you’re wearing.  The ones you change in front of, the ones who don’t judge you, the ones you cry with, who know your weaknesses but don’t hold them against you.  THOSE friends.

So welcome back to my blog, I’m excited to start it up again and take you through my world of trying to look forever 29!  I am going to try to post as much as I can because I have a lot to share, I hope you like it!

In the meantime, I hope you’re finding your best self during the quarantine and taking good care of YOU. What kinds of things are you doing for self care?